The Relationship with yourself – Self Hate OR Self Love

Your relationship with yourself is your primary relationship. Regardless whether you are alone or a mother with children, a devoted lover with a husband or wife or equivalent… or simply a loyal employee, basically whatever duo you are a part of, the relationship you have with yourself is the most important and significant relationship you have.

The way you relate to yourself is the foundation of how you relate to everybody in the world.

How you relate to yourself is how you inadvertently relate to your romantic partner, business partner, children, parents, friends, boss and so forth. The way you relate to yourself is even at the foundation of how you relate to your life purpose, physical health and even how you relate to your money.

Obviously then, the relationship you have with yourself is very significant and needs to be a ‘happy relationship’ in order to have all the before mentioned relationships be happy relationships. If you want better romantic relationships, a better relationship with a family member or a better relationship to money even, than the relationship with yourself is what you need to work on.

So how does this relationship work you ask? Read More→

Are you romantically involved with your mum or dad ?

That got your attention aye? You either cringed, gasped, stopped your breath, shuddered or any one of another 10 natural responses…

The truth is though, you are in a relationship with your mum and dad on some level as they are the 1st male and female you ever felt love for or loved by, therefore whatever you have unresolved with them you are playing out with your current adult partner, and you spend most of the time UNCONSCIOUSLY super imposing your mum and dad personalities and issues you have with them onto your current partner!

If this is not happening then it is even worse, Read More→

Emotional Integration

Why some people heal whilst others stay stuck

Emotional Integration. Sounds fancy… like the expression ‘Emotional Intelligence’… Scientific nearly… Conveys a sense of soul-full-ness and science at the same time… Rightfully so…

Our emotional process has a science to it. Read More→

Importance of Emotional Release

After over 20 years experience in emotional release work, both with my own awakening process, and 17 of those years professionally facilitating other peoples emotional release process through ‘Cathartic style Breathwork’, the importance of ‘emotional integration’ is still the main message I have for people who wish to be free of Depression, Anxiety, Relationship issues such as lack of boundaries, recurring patterns of conflict and sexual issues or simply wish for more inner peace.

When I speak of ‘emotional integration’ I am not talking about self help books Read More→

Why Our Emotions Are The Key To Pronounced And Lasting Change.

Things were not always going well for me. I was always emotionally stuck,full of anxiety and riddled with physical ailments, not to mention broke and never able to achieve the abundance of love & money ‘I knew I deserved’. Read More→

Cathartic style breathwork


Breathwork has been around since the beginning of man developing systems to feel happier, improve health and be more connected to the universe.

In the last 5 decades Breathwork has evolved to a whole new level, and been developed into the art & science that we know as Rebirthing Breathwork or the more ‘Cathartic’ style originally called Holotropic Breathwork. Thanks to the explorations of Leonard Orr, an American spiritual disciple and Stanislav Groff, a Czechoslovakian Doctor of psychotherapy, we have been given the greatest psychotherapeutic discovery since the distinction was made between the conscious and the unconscious motivating layers of the mind.

I am writing this article with the aim to raise awareness of why we refer to  ‘Breathwork’ as the future of therapy. Read More→

Anxiety – An indicator of un-surfaced depression

Q. What is Anxiety from an ‘ Emotional Intelligence’ viewpoint?

 A. Anxiety is the equivalent of the surface presenting symptom Read More→

Depression – An Illness or emotional constipation?

The treatment of depression in the new paradigm we are in now, requires us to change our attitude collectively. The approaches  that account for most of the depression  treatments  in the past were very clinical, overly logical, unwholistic and even brutal. There seems to have been a need to categorize  depression;  is it non-melancholic, melancholic, reactive, clinical, does it come from genetic factors, is it personality style?  is it biochemical? Read More→

Thinking too much?

No inner peace let alone inner meditative stillness?

Whether it is anxiety, obsessive thinking patterns, obsessive compulsive disorder, too active a mind that results in sleep issues or simply the inability to quieten the mind and still it in order to experience a meditative state we all suffer to various degrees from too much thinking. The ‘ monkey mind ‘, the overly busy mind is actually the end result of holding onto too much emotional pain in the heart/ body mind. Read More→

Self Worth equals Self Love in Action.

Self Worth/ Self Love. We all aspire to having a high degree of self worth, though very few of us entered adulthood with our sense of self worth intact. If you are one of the lucky few you most probably have a high degree of self esteem and confidence, you feel good about yourself experiencing self honour and dignity, you have easy and smooth flowing relationships, you have your financial reality mastered and are free of addictions. Addictions ranging from drugs/alcohol, food, workaholism and even an addiction to misery are not in your experience. The rest of us though, who entered adulthood with low self worth experience the opposite. Read More→